Why do some people pine away from the same person - even when they can't have them?

Last night I was laying down after watching Memoirs of a Geisha and I was thinking - who does that? Who loves someone their whole life and puts that much energy and expectation into another person. Seems to me that it is a great way to get your hopes up and leave yourself open to utter emotional annihilation.





I just don’t understand being stuck on someone that doesn’t even take notice of you - or better yet wasting your life away on someone that is so obviously bad for you. It’s just crazy and forgien to me. I don’t think two people have to be desperately in love to be together, sometimes just love - plain ordinary love is enough... assuming you like each other and have something more than boning in common.





Every day I work with clients that pine away for YEARS for one person - a person that is married to someone else, or hooked on drugs, or that simply don’t know that the other exists. And they spend loads of money texting to me in desperate hope that they will get this one person -

Why do some people pine away from the same person - even when they can't have them?
They pine after the people they can't have because they've built up an idea in their head of how perfect this person is. They put them on a pedestal, and often they worship them.


I think that if people are head over heels for one another, and spend every waking moment together, it doesn't usually last.


It's the same with the obsessive people. If they finally do get to be with the person they've been chasing for years, often the person isn't what they expected because they've built up this god-like image of them in their heads. And then it doesn't work out.





I agree, plain love is enough, and what's more, it lasts!
Reply:the wonder of discovery, the excitement of adventure, the joy of living in the moment, the hope of passion, the strength of resolve, the sorrow of loss, the wisdom of experience - each one is richer for having shared them all with one love....





perhaps you think sharing with just one is too confining. but without defined boundaries, true creativity does not exist.